So after Part 1 of 2: Cancer Update we can now move on to the happy part – Steve and I have less than 2 weeks to try to cram in some ‘bucket list‘ endeavours!

Why? Because if I get so sick I can’t do anything when this new chemo starts I’ll regret not doing anything while we still had the chance – whether I get better or not!

My impromptu bucket list

  • Visit Blenheim Palace and revisit the spot where Steve proposed
  • Stay at Burford Hose Hotel where we’ve stayed many times before, specifically the Sherborne suite which is the topmost room with a roll-top bath and four poster bed!
  • Eat at The Lamb restaurant in Burford. Again, we’ve been here many times before. We always splash out and get the 7 course taster menu, usually with the 7 drink accompaniment!
  • Visit the Cinema and sit in the premium seats
  • Take the kids to the beach
  • Take the kids to a theme park
  • Eat at The Fat Duck, Heston Blumenthal’s flagship restaurant.
  • Buy some bits and bobs for the house that hadn’t yet been finished/bought – some mirrors, a basket, a new sugar bowl etc. Just to keep me feeling like I’m still keeping the house looking the way I like it!
  • See as many visitors as I can in the space of time that we have (without burning myself out).

So that last part ‘without burning myself out’ applies to all of the bucket list, but at least I can see visitors in hospital whereas I can’t do the rest from hospital.

What we’ve managed

Somehow ‘hiring a mustang’ became part of my bucket list 😂so we’ve driven in our hired Mustang up to Burford and we stayed in the Sherbourne suite at the Burford House Hotel ✅.

We kissed on the bridge where Steve proposed at Blenheim Palace ✅, my disabled car pass badge enabled us to park much closer so I didn’t have to walk for miles.

We ate at The Lamb ✅. Unfortunately The Lamb have changed from a ‘fine dining’ restaurant with taster menu to more of a Gastro-pub but the meal was still nice and we had an amazing date. Steve was a little tipsy as he’d ordered roses and champagne on ice (he has always done this) and since I’m not drinking he chipped into the champagne while I napped before dinner!

I ordered mirrors for the Fungalow’s hallway and our master bedroom and they’ve been hung up and look amazing, exactly how I envisioned ✅. I’m still on the lookout for the perfect sugar bowl and a basket that is ‘just right’ for holding blankets in the space allocated in the living room!

We had to cancel…

We didn’t go to the beach or the theme park as the days we allocated for it were far far too hot due to the heat wave we’re experiencing here in the UK. I sat outside at 10am the day before and I felt like I was melting!!! I’m hoping that I’ll be home for long enough, and that I’ll be strong enough, to do these things even between chemo rounds.

Back on track!

The fact that we were even able to get seats at Fat Duck at short notice was incredible. We went, we had the accompanying non-alcoholic drinks taster menu ✅. We had an amazing time.

The thing is, the Fat Duck experience deserves its own whole blog post so for now I’ll just say: They tailored everything to my needs with regard to my throat – I was able to eat pretty much everything. They also tailored the drinks taster menu to my needs too replacing the fruit-based drinks with teas and other beverages. And I had tears several times either because I was overwhelmed with being able to eat, or because the food and extra touches made me feel like I was transported to another place, or the last set of tears was because a large group of friends had arranged to pay our bill – how amazing is that?

So carrying on with my bucket list, we saw the latest Jurassic Park film and sat in the comfy seats ✅. We went in the morning and had lunch afterwards. The cinema was completely quiet, there were just two other people. Our local cinema has stripped out all the ‘normal’ seats so every seat is premium with electric reclining leather chairs and a tray table. Its so nice!

My final bucket list item to see as many people as I can I believe I’m achieving ✅. I’ve had lots of visitors but haven’t been completely worn out. I’ve got a few more coming before I start my treatments so I’m really happy to have been able to see so many people!

What’s on your list?

Whats on your bucket list? Are you trying to tick them off? Its crazy that we talk about bucket lists regularly through life but often we don’t try to do the amazing things we want to do until we’re too sick to actually do them!!! Comment below and let me know, I’m curious to see, and maybe I’ll get inspiration for more things that I can do!

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Kim Debling is a Hampshire, UK based designer and Director of her own company Kestrel Design Ltd. She is mum to Rose and Harvey and wife to her best friend Steve.  She’s fighting off Stage 4 Lymphoma and sharing her story along the way, mainly via YouTube. Kim is passionate about being happy, mental wellbeing and in particular art and creative pursuits as therapy during tough times. She teaches online at Udemy, has published books and has art and printables available for sale.

Part 2 of 2: My bucket list adventures was last modified: July 30th, 2018 by Kim Debling